James 3:17,18 ~ The Message Bible
Real wisdom, God’s wisdom, begins with a holy life and is characterized by getting along with others. It is gentle and reasonable, overflowing with mercy and blessings, not hot one day and cold the next, not two-faced. You can develop a healthy, robust community that lives right with God and enjoy its results only if you do the hard work of getting along with each other, treating each other with dignity and honor.
Do you ever wonder if the messages you're getting are from God or from the enemy? What do God's messages look like? Is He harsh and oppressive? Does He confuse us by saying one thing one day and something else the next? I say "No". Hearing from God begins by living a holy life, a life of walking in love with our neighbors, treating them with dignity and honor. That is our part to play to keep the lines of communication open. That doesn't mean we are perfect, it just means we are living authentically before Him in all our ways. He told us in the book of James that if we lack wisdom, we can ask of Him. He will give liberally without holding back. What He tells us will overflow with mercy, gentleness and consistency with His Word. Don't be afraid to ask, He is ready with mercy and blessings!